16/07/2014 by Chris Green
It was probably the most formative piece of feedback to a sermon I have ever received.
I don’t remember what I had preached on, but I know I thought it was pretty average, and I wasn’t happy with it. Straight afterwards a friend came up to me and asked me how I thought it had gone.
I muttered something vaguely dismissive of what I had done, but then he brought me up short. Richard pointed a finger at my chest, looked straight into my eyes, and said,
“You taught me something about Jesus I didn’t know before. How dare you say it wasn’t any good!”
That brought me up short. I realised I hadn’t thought of it that way before, and I needed to think carefully about how I handle conversations after church.
What I think and feel about my sermon are irrelevant. The whole point of the exercise is the response to the gospel in the hearers.
After I have preached I normally feel pretty empty. There are spiritual, physiological and psychological reasons for that, but I’ve learnt that’s what happens. Adrenalin seeps away, I’ve travelled a spiritual journey while I’ve been preaching, and I’ve used a lot of energy in the effort of engaging with and communicating to a bunch of people. No wonder I feel slightly deflated.
And I now routinely dismiss questions asking about my emotional state, even in a more structured feedback session, because provided it is within a range of what I’ve learnt is normal, it is no guide at all to what the Holy Spirit has been doing in the lives of the hearers as his Word has been opened.
I owe it to people who have just heard the sermon not to bring my feelings to the table. Instead, I need to see the conversations I’m about to have as a continuation of what’s just gone on.
- There are people like Richard, who want to talk about what I’ve just talked about. I’ve had to learn a way of responding that gets the conversation off me and onto the Bible passage. So in response to his first query about how I felt, I could have responded honestly but shifted the focus. Given that he was a good friend, genuinely asking about me, how about:
“I always feel a bit flat after I’ve preached, but I’ve learnt that doesn’t matter. How did it come across to you?” That’s keeping it at the level of feedback on the sermon, but shifts it onto what he learnt rather than how I felt
Or, after he’d poked me in the chest:
“Richard, that’s brilliant! What did you learn?” Again, the focus shifts from me to him, and what he’s discovered about Jesus.
- There are people who need to talk about something else going on in their life. The sermon isn’t always top of people’s minds (I know that’s a terrifying shock to a preacher, but it’s true). The medical test results, the discovery of a teenager’s drug habit, the row on the way to church – people need to process other things as disciples, and if they’re processing that with me as their pastor, that’s fine. If Haggai didn’t hit the spot for them, my role is to find the scripture that will, and pray that home with them.
- And then there are people who need to say something to me after the sermon, and opt for something vaguely pleasant. “Wonderful sermon!” “You’re always very clear.”
Again, deflect. Not onto false modesty, but onto God, quickly:
“Thank you – it’s easy being excited about such a wonderful passage! Was there something that struck you particularly?”
There are a host of other things people want so say, and where we need to work out what to say back. But there’s a horrid streak in me I have to nail each time.
Pride is a terrible enemy for all preachers. Pride can tell us we’ve done really well, or that we’ve just preached really badly compared to what we’re really capable of. Pride seeks praise, and massages conversations so we get compliments. Pride can make us take pride in what is nothing more than God’s gift, which he could equally bestow on any member of the church, but which he happens to have given to us. Pride makes us take pride in being humble. Pride makes us focus on our performance, our impact, and how my sermon is really about me.
Nonsense. Do your soul work before you preach, and get yourself ready. Reset your dials after you’ve preached, during the closing song. And at the most basic level, I find I’m often helped by eating a banana, to reset the energy levels.
If God’s word is having an effect through you, you must expect to have to handle those conversations. So plan how.
- How do you normally feel after you’ve preached? High, low, drained, pumped?
- How do you respond to complimentary feedback? Do you believe you’re as good as they say you are?
Pile in below and let’s help each other out!
There’s a chapter on pastors and ministry in the local church in my book ‘Assemble the people before me’, available here.