Today was just an ordinary day in many ways – the usual work of a pastor, some ho-hum, and some more unusual, some essential and some more trivial. But it occurs to me that in the course of today I gave something away at least ten times:
Permission: “Could we try…” Yes of course! What a great idea! Let’s make it happen.
Ideas: “What about if we…” Well, here’s how I might do it.
Encouragement: “This has happened” Brilliant! Thank you! Does that charge you up, or leave you feeling a bit flat? And if it’s the latter, what would give you a lift?
Resources: “We need do this…” OK, let’s see how we can get you what we need to make that happen.
Attention: “This is a serious problem” I’m listening. What do you want or need, from me or from others?
Thought: “This is a poser – what do we do?” I’m not sure; let’s sit down and talk it through.
Reward: “I’ve done something above and beyond what you expected!” You certainly have! How can I make the smile on your face a bit bigger?
Reassurance: “I’ve made a judgement call, and I’m not sure it’s the right one.” Talk me through it, with your reasons; in all probability I’d have done much the same and I’ll back you anyway.
Guidance: “What do you want me to do?” I want you to do this; get back to me if the situation moves outside certain parameters.
Thanks: “Job done.” And done well – everyone, look at what’s happened; thank you.
And tomorrow I might give sympathy, teaching, time…
By the way – I’m not claiming to be a perfect pastor here! But I am preaching about theft on Sunday, so giving rather than taking is on my mind
What did you give away today? Pile in!